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Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Camp New Hope Intro

In the NC mountains of Ashe County, is a breathtaking160 acre property that sits on the edge of the New River.  There is a redesigned 4 bedroom hunting lodge that can sleep 10 people. There are 4 wheel drive utility vehicles (Kubotas) to ride the many trails through the mountainside, there is canoeing and tubing on the New River, there is fishing, volleyball & firepits, there is a fun play area in the "shed" with air hockey, pool, video games, and all kinds of toys and things to occupy the children. The best part is the kitchen comes stocked with food, and the Camp Director, Randy, cooks many of the suppers for the families attending the camp. This place of rest and renewal is called Camp New Hope, and we were blessed to spend last week enjoying it with my Mom and Dad, and Michael's Mom (his father passed away 5 years ago). This was truly a once in a lifetime opportunity for our family as we have never been on a vacation where we've had both parents there since mine are in PA and Michael's is in OH.

Camp New Hope is a privately owned, nonprofit, no-charge facility for families who have children with life-threatening medical conditions.  It is run by volunteers who dedicate much time and energy into making it a special week for our special children. It was created through a vision of two brothers, Mark and Will Adkins of Waterfront Group, who have selflessly used their property for the purpose of giving a gift of lifetime memories for families like ours.

Welcome to Camp New Hope - "A Special Place For Special People"

Beautiful scenery driving through the property.

One of the many lovely little garden areas to give you a spot for peace and tranquility.

Another view of the New River from the property.

"Rebekah Mtn" - Each time a child visits Camp New Hope, the camp names on of the 4-wheeling trails after a child. Then the signs hang in their "shed" until the next visit from that child.

Pure beauty!

Garden of Hope


Garden of Hope

Sun Room of the lodge, complete with a row of rocking chairs and a few tables for game playing so you can sit and watch the river below.

"Bob" is one of the lodge decorations. The lodge is a  renovated 1950's hunting  "lodge" that has been expanded and adapted.  It can hold 1 family - up to 10 people in 4 bedrooms.  It is filled with decorations like this bobcat.

Looking up the hill at the lodge from the road in.

Entrance and grilling area of the lodge.

Go to Camp New Hope's website to donate online or to download an application/physician form to apply for camp qualification.
Check out Camp New Hope's Blog which features the families that visit each each week.
On facebook? Like Camp New Hope's page!


Sunday, June 17, 2012

Little Milestones... Big Dreams

It's been awhile since I've highlighted Rebekah's latest accomplishments. Besides turning 3 on April 21st, Rebekah has gained some important skills in the last 2 months which give us more hope of what she may be able to do one day. Also, it has been a year since she has been admitted to a hospital! So we have had a pretty healthy year too.  And while these are all little milestones for a "typical" child, they are big dreams for us! And while there are some trisomy 18 kids that seem to do some of these things more on a typical developmental schedule, Rebekah is a vision of hope for those with trisomy children that have many defects and markers in utero. She has come a long way from her early prognosis, and she is definitely redefining "incompatible with life"! 

So please enjoy some pictures and videos of Rebekah's latest accomplishments and know that there is hope for children with trisomy 18!
 
Right before her birthday in April, Rebekah starting pushing up to a standing position when supported. This was huge as every time we would put her feet to the floor, she would pull her feet up and just dangle.  We think all of the work daily in her stander has made a big difference.  Here is a video of her dancing with her Daddy: http://youtu.be/tSQvEnzW9TU

Rebekah is really starting to interact with people and "explore" their faces when they talk to her. It is so sweet seeing her reach up and touch someone's face, or arm. She has also discovered she can reach up and pull her own hair!  Here she is with our dear friend, Jeannette, mother to T-18 angel, Caleb.
In May, Rebekah started preschool! Here she is on her first day jumping right in at circle time and hitting the big mac button on cue. She is attending a special needs school designed for kids just like her. There are a maximum of 6 kids in her room, and there is a teacher, an aide, and a nurse also in the room. Although she only spent 1 month at school before summer break, it gave us an idea of what we want to do in the fall and we intend to have her continue. The staff was wonderful to her and she gets exposed to so much more than what we can do here at home.
Rebekah in her first gait trainer. We got her to take a step with a lot of coaxing. Hopefully next year at school she will progress and begin to stand/take steps on her own. I tried videotaping her taking a step in it, but she wouldn't perform, of course! She did take a double-step leap though! You can see a video of her here: http://youtu.be/p06LsYo3IeI.

Here is her latest "trick", fresh off the press! Rebekah was born with classic trisomy 18 clenched fists and indwelling thumbs. Her fingers are short and her thumbs are webbed which make them extra short. The muscles in her hands are still extremely weak and the clenched fists/short digits contributed to inability for Rebekah to grasp and use her hands in a useful manner besides just batting at toys. Just the other day, Rebekah finally got a handle at using her hands to knock away/push a cloth off her face. In the past, she would just let it stay on her head, or she would shake her head back-and-forth until the cloth would fall away. We have been thrilled with this new skill, because her development depends on her ability to be able to hold on to things. This gets us a step closer! And I believe once Rebekah masters this task, she will start developing intellectually at a faster rate than she has been. We have spent the last few days making her repeat this task over and over again, making sure it isn't a fluke. She has done it every single time! And, she is getting a little tired of us putting stuff on her face now. :-)

Monday, May 7, 2012

A New Chapter... PRESCHOOL


We have been extremely busy over the last few months transitioning Rebekah from early intervention to school-based services, and determining how we want to handle her transition. Making a decision to actually send her to school is extremely emotional and scary. One part of us wants to keep her safe and sheltered, the other part of us wants to experience more than we can provide in our home (in terms of socialization with other kids her age, access to sensory rooms, ongoing therapies, and equipment we do not have, etc.).  And, of course, the fact that she has a trach and is medically fragile complicates putting her in an environment where both we and the school staff feels comfortable.

Rebekah turned 3 on 4/21/12 and, according to IDEA, can start school at that time. Because of the amount of paperwork required for her medical needs, it took us a few weeks to cover all of the requirements. School is out end of the month, and it may seem silly to send her to preschool for 3 1/2 weeks, but we are looking at this as a trial run to see how we like having her at a special needs school.  There is a huge debate whether to mainstream special needs kids, or segregate them. There are pros and cons to both views, and there are scenarios that combine both possibilities.

The county that we live is one of the top 50 districts in the country based on size, so we have some options available to us that may not be available in a smaller school district. One of our options is The Washington Center.
Washington Center is a unique “one of a kind” facility. It is a separate school that serves students ages 3 to 21 with severe mental disabilities.  Many of these students have concurrent challenges such as autism, blindness, deafness, or physical disabilities.  The mission of Washington Center is to provide opportunities for students to explore and develop potential for independent functioning and community involvement by addressing students' individual needs and creating a partnership with home, school, and community.

We are starting here because she can be in a classroom with a dedicated nurse, and a 2:1 student:adult ratio. The facility is filled with equipment and sensory items that are perfect for Rebekah.  One little girl in her class started school for the first time this year at the age of 5. The parents were told she would never walk and wouldn't "do much". When we saw her in the class, she wasn't just standing, she was walking and even remained standing for the entire class circle time. She had developed this ability and the stamina to stand for 45 minutes all in the past school year.  All of the children (who from outside/inexperienced eyes probably appeared severely disabled and non-communicative), participated in circle time Big Mac button pushing, making selections, voicing happiness and displeasure... I was happy to spend the day there so I could see the wonderful things they are working on with the kids. Most of all, we are very happy with her classroom teachers and nurse (who will be with her in the fall as well).

Rebekah's First Day of School: Rainbow Fish was the story for the Circle Time. The teacher programmed the Big Mac button to say "rainbow" when pushed. As they read a page to each of the children, they had them press the Big Mac whenever 'rainbow' was mentioned in the story. Rebekah caught on, and pressed the Big Mac when it was placed in front of her.

Rebekah's First Day of School:  "Good job, Rebekah!" Her teacher was quite happy to see her catch on so quick. Rebekah was quite proud of herself and sat smirking and waving her hand in excitement.

During circle time, the teacher talked about the weather. It was a cloudy day today. The students got to touch a cloud as they discussed the weather. Rebekah joined in and swiped at the cloud as well.

Here's a picture of some of the kids in Rebekah's class. She is in a special needs school and all of the children are disabled. One of the considerations in preparing for school is to determine what "least restrictive environment" you want for your child. In Rebekah's case, because of her trach, our options are a little more limited. However, this school is wonderful and there is a nurse, a teacher, and an aide dedicated to her one classroom of no more than 6 kids.

Rebekah's first art project! Because rainbow was the theme of the day, they painted a rainbow with watercolors. She helped hold the paintbrush and was quite interested in the activity, and followed the paint brush/line of paint as it went across the table.

Assessments, IEPs, Special Education Services... Oh My!

This is an overview of transitioning your special needs child from Early Intervention to Special Education Services.

Under IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act), a federal law concerning the education of students with disabilities, qualifying children are entitled to early intervention services before the age of 3, and public school services from 3-21 years old. For those delayed in multiple areas, there is a battery of tests performed, including a multi-discipline panel of therapists, psychologists, and specialists, leading up to a child's 3rd birthday. IDEA and your rights under this law are incredibly important to parents with children that have any type of delay or behavioral issue. The purpose of all of this is to provide as much early intervention as possible. Just google early intervention and you will find tons of resources that point to the long-term cost-effectiveness and success by providing these services.  So, if your child qualifies for them, please take advantage of what is available to help your child succeed in life!

Child Find
Child Find is a component of the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) that requires states to identify, locate, and evaluate all children with disabilities age 3-21 years old. Before your child's 3rd birthday, contact your local school district and request a Child Find screening to determine if your child is eligible for Special Education Services. Children will be assessed in these areas:
  • Developmental (self-help/daily-living, motor, cognition, social/emotional, orthopedic)
  • Speech/Language (communication)
  • Hearing
  • Vision
Depending on the area and level of delay, the next step may be additional assessment/testing.

Assessment/Testing
In our school district, the next assessment phase is called Arena Testing. This is where a long list of tests take place with your child by a room full of important-sounding people. It can be intimidating being in a room full of people with fancy titles, advanced degrees, and ideas about what your child can/can't do. This coupled with the fact that your child will NOT "perform" as you hope because of being thrown in an unfamiliar environment with tons of new faces and sights and sounds. And the more significantly delayed your child is, the longer this appointment lasts! I think ours was 2 hours long.
We also experienced a home visit for additional data collection, and had the opportunity to have vision and hearing screens done (but we had already had these tests done independently and submitted the reports for consideration). We also had to provide record access to several different doctors and therapists. Much information goes into the prep work prior to the IEP meeting.

Individualized Education Program
An IEP is the Individualized Education Program that defines the special education services (SES) you will receive from a public school district. It is a required document if your child is to receive SES. It is truly individualized for each student, and contains information required by law such as performance, annual goals, special education and related services, accommodations, participation in state and district tests, needed transition services, and measured progress.
Typically the parents go into the IEP meeting and the IEP team will already have a draft IEP available. The team, very similar to the assessment team, will go over the child's goals, requirements, etc. This can also be an intimidating meeting for an unprepared parent. Remember that you do not have to leave the meeting signing anything and you can take the proposed IEP home to review before signing it.
The best preparation for an IEP meeting is any of the Wright Law books on IEPs (One good book: All About IEPs) AND input from parents who have already been through the process and have similar disabilities to your child. Wrights Law website has excellent resources, and Exceptional Parents also has a great resource packet.

Rebekah's IEP Overview
This is a real high level look at the kind of goals we chose for Rebekah's IEP. Each goal has a list of sub-tasks that include many different 'mini-goals', but these are the ones that she will be measured against to determine "success". If Rebekah manages these goals before the end of the 2012-13 school year, we will be able to adjust her IEP. Moderate assist, in the context of creating measurable goals, means that the student does 50-75% of the work.
  1. Put toy in container 2 out of 5 tries with moderate assist. (OT goal)
  2. Transition from floor to sit position 2 out of 5 tries with moderate assist. (PT goal)
  3. Participate/respond in back-and-forth communication using facial, verbal, body cues and/or augmentative communication device. (ST goal)
  4. When Rebekah's name is called, she will respond by turning her head towards the source and vocalizing in response 1 out of 3 tries. (Classroom goal)
  5. When given a toothbrush, Rebekah will grasp it and bring it to her mouth 3 out of 5 tries with moderate assist. (Adaptive Skills goal)
  6. Given a choice between 2 pictures, Rebekah will identify herself in 2 out of 3 tries. (Vision goal)
  7. When given a choice between 2 things (whether activities, toys, etc), Rebekah will indicate a preference in 3 out of 5 tries using eye gaze, vocalization, or touch. (Social Behavior goal)
  8. Rebekah will engage in reciprocal play / turn-taking tasks (such as rolling a ball) in 4 out of 5 tries. (Mommy's goal)
Resources
Some great resources for IEP planning (and general disability law): 
  • Wrights Law is the best resource for everything you want to know about Disability Law - from advocacy to education/IEPs to rights as a parent. Their books are excellent resources and you can learn so much about many of the key laws (like IDEA, No Child Left Behind, FERPA, Section 504 & ADA, etc). If you have a special needs child and you don't recognize these laws, you need to go to Wright's Law and do your homework!
  • Partner's in Policymaking is a national program that teaches parents and self-advocates the power of advocacy to change the way people with disabilities are supported, viewed, taught, live and work.  There are hours and hours of free online training available, and many states offer group training on the curriculum with a state-specific focus.
  • Exceptional Parents Unlimited is an excellent resource for a parent facing extraordinary medical, developmental, or parenting challenges. 

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Against the Odds - Living with Trisomy 18

Rebekah celebrated her 3rd birthday on April 21, and she celebrated surrounded by her trisomy family! Thanks to Russ Bowen at ABC's WLOS 13 in Asheville, NC, we were able to share the miracle of her life and the blessing that she is to our family.  We are so very grateful to WLOS for running this Special Report on trisomy 18 and sharing our hope and faith with others! Please grab a tissue before watching and SHARE, SHARE, SHARE!! We want people to know that this is a journey worth walking.  (The direct link to the youtube video is here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5JDrQrwYFY)



The video was taken during the weekend of Rebekah's birthday. We celebrated with 6 trisomy 18  and 1 trisomy 9p friends. We also had the family of a chromosome 2p- (microdeletion), and two families who have lost their trisomy 18 children. Our friends came from SC, FL, and GA.  Below are just a few pictures followed by a link to our facebook birthday bash photo album.

Josiah decided he wants to be a camerman when he grows up!

Beautiful trisomy kids and their mommas

Rebekah showing off her pretty dress and newfound standing skills

Lisa, trisomy mom to Joey, receives a kiss from Kaylen, who has full trisomy 18 and is 11 years old!

There are many more photos to be seen! Please check them out on our birthday facebook album.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Prenatal Testing - Friend or Foe?


I am not against the idea of prenatal testing. I had the triple or quad screens done with 4 out of 5 of my pregnancies.  But there are so many questions surrounding the pushes for prenatal testing coverage as a mandated insurance cost.  Can prenatal testing save insurance companies a lot of money and reduce risk from more invasive procedures? Can it help parents better prepare and make decisions? I am sure it can in some ways. But at what cost to our humanity?  And is it fair to push prenatal testing and/or its associated costs on families not interested in ever participating?  


For Rebekah's pregnancy, we had prenatal testing done in the form of an amniocentesis at 19 weeks gestation due to all of the problems and soft markers that were on our ultrasounds. Given a good guess that we were looking at a severe chromosome trisomy like 18 or 13, I found myself praying that my child would simply have Down's Syndrome and have a better chance at life. What a change in perspective, huh?  And, while never pushed for an abortion (because we made our stance very clear), we were painted a pretty bleak picture of what the future would hold...marriage stress, life with a 'vegetable', no hope, told our money would be better spent sending our 4 boys to college, and so on. 


Why did we get the testing done? We wanted to prepare and educate ourselves in order to provide the best options for our child. If she really was going to die at or before birth, we wanted to hold her, have pictures taken of her, to let her brothers meet her, have her funeral arrangements in order so we wouldn't have to deal with that stress at birth... We did not want her whisked away to a NICU to die on machines. 


Unfortunately, the testing backfired and, while we thought we were best preparing ourselves, we were just being inundated with old statistics and outdated/inexperienced opinions that led to palliative care preparation.  Resources from the internet (at that time) were 99% gloom and doom, and we received no positive resources from our doctors (in terms of being told about support organizations and groups, data on kids that survive, etc). Don't get me wrong... we had many compassionate, wonderful medical professionals that helped us prepare! We are extremely grateful for the consideration and understanding of our Maternal Fetal Medicine OB and perinatal hospice nurse - both who helped us make appropriate arrangements. 


But I can't help but think we sold our daughter short. We did not intervene early on, and she suffered from 5 weeks of worsening and life-threatening apnea events that, because of her prenatal diagnosis, were written off as symptoms of trisomy 18. Addressing them would only "increase her suffering, prolong her miserably existence, and lead to financial and marriage woes" because the problems were inherent to the extra 18th chromosome. In other words, trisomy 18 went beyond a diagnosis and, wrongfully, became the prognosis.  We did more harm to her not intervening early on and not pushing for medical interventions. Once we finally realized she wanted to be here and was fighting, we knew we had to fight with her. We soon pushed for all kinds of testing to determine her apnea issues, and the results amazed her medical team because they were TREATABLE. What our prenatal testing resulted in was prenatal genetic discrimination, reduction of early intervention options, no early "invasive procedures", and a preconceived idea from just about every medical professional involved of what our daughter would/wouldn't be. Let me just say that she has probably exceeded all of their expectations, and she probably did that before she even reached a year old. 


I am not against someone having a prenatal test... but I am against discrimination and genocide. I now suggest that families do not get their genetic testing done until after birth so that their child is given more opportunities. And yes, I am realistic. I think about my daughter's lifespan everyday because, statistically, she is a "long-term survivor" of trisomy 18 and I have not heard of any T18 children that have lived a normal life span. I am against giving false hope...but I am also against someone receiving false despair.  Already, we see at least 90% of babies diagnosed with prenatal chromosome disorders aborted. This number WILL go up with the newer and better prenatal diagnostic blood tests like Sequenom and verifi(TM), and that is precisely why and how prenatal testing will reduce medical costs.  


The real problem with this early knowledge is that parents are typically only given one side - the negative and worst-case medical/clinical side of things, and are not given the supports or accurate up-to-date resources parents need to make educated, well-informed decisions.  This is something that the Prenatally and Postnatally Diagnosed Awareness Act S1810 (Kennedy-Brownback Bill SB1810)  is suppose to help address.  Unfortunately, this was signed into law but no appropriations have been made to implement it. The law identifies the need for Physicians and health professionals to provide parents who receive a prenatal or postnatal diagnosis of trisomy 21 (Downs Syndrome), or other diagnosable congential condition such as trisomy 18 (Edwards Syndrome) and trisomy 13 (Patau's Syndrome), with updated, evidence-based information and resources about the condition. 
We love our Rebekah dearly and cannot imagine life without her sweet spirit! Our marriage has not fallen apart, our boys are not traumatized... in fact, our "humanity quotient" has grown a good deal and I know that my boys will grow up to be extremely compassionate, empathetic, and more "tolerant" than most of their peers. 


There is an article that I would love our followers to read. It is FIRST-PERSON: The Dark Side of Prenatal Testing by Penna Dexter from the Baptist Press news
"...Prenatal testing and the medical personnel involved are convincing far too many women to abort. We must change this."
I have to agree. Because, even if you are "Pro-Choice", you have to respect that receiving one-sided information is not going to result in a happy ending when a family terminates because they ultimately had no choice presented to them. I have been contacted by many women who were pushed into abortions because of genetic anomalies. When they see Rebekah, or one of many, many other children, surviving and thriving with their disorder, they have indicated that they feel robbed of that choice. My heart aches for these women. 
The article has many good points but here is another.
"There is a bill making its way through Congress, the Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act, which would ban sex-selection or race-selection abortions. This bill, or another, should also address the disabled. New Jersey Congressman Chris Smith, a champion for pro-life legislation, says children, whether they are "sick, disabled or healthy" possess "fundamental human rights that no sane or compassionate society can abridge.""
There are many things that could be done to help families make informed decisions for their children. One way is to help lobby for the above-mentioned Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act to take into consideration the disabled. Sex- and race-selection abortions are already included. And if you wonder why we should even have an act to protect again sex, race, disability-based abortion selections, just look at how prenatal discrimination cases are on the rise and costing taxpayers a lot of money. But, that is probably a whole long discussion in and of itself...

Sunday, April 29, 2012

TAG-Teaming the SOFT Stroll for Hope

SOFT (Support Organization For Trisomy 18, 13, and Related Disorders) is a volunteer organization that offers support for parents who have had or are expecting a child with a chromosome disorder (especially Trisomy 18 and Trisomy 13), and education to families and professionals interested in the care of these children.  Every year they hold an annual SOFT Conference which provides an opportunity for grieving families to celebrate the lives of their children and learn skills to help them in their grief. It also offers an opportunity for families of living children to come together and spend time with families who understand their daily struggles, medical concerns and stresses, and the joys found in having a trisomy child. Most importantly, it offers opportunities for doctors to get hands-on experience with trisomy children through a medical clinic offered to all trisomy attendees, and provides important up-to-date education opportunities to families and medical professionals alike.

I am excited and honored because I will be representing the Trisomy Advocacy Group (TAG) at a conference session, along with several other TAG Board members. Our session is entitled "How to Advocate for your Trisomy Child".



All of the TAG Board Members attending the SOFT Conference will also be involved in a conference Stroll for Hope event that is designed to raise funds for SOFT. Some of the money goes to future conference costs, and some of the money goes to SOFT's general funds for operating costs.  I fully support SOFT and can attest to the positive impact it can have on families no matter where they are in this journey. Please consider supporting TAG's efforts to help SOFT by donating towards our TAG Team's SOFT Stroll for Hope fundraising efforts!


Here are some photos from the SOFT Stroll for Hope event in Chicago, IL in 2011. This is our Budd Zoo Team! But this year, we will have a TAG Team instead!
The Budd Zoo Team posing in our 2011 Stroll for Hope position.
Here is the back of our team Budd Zoo t-shirts. The design was created by our son, Elijah. We then used  ink jet t-shirt transfers to put them on matching t-shirts.
Go Team Budd Zoo! Notice how Elijah is holding Rebekah's hand. :-)


PLEASE DONATE to our TAG Team SOFT Stroll for Hope here: https://www.firstgiving.com/fundraiser/TrisomyAdvocacyGroup/StLouis1

Find out more about SOFT's Annual Conference, to be held in July at St. Louis, MS this year:

To learn more about SOFT, please visit -
facebook support group page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TrisomySOFT/

To learn more about Trisomy Advocacy Group (TAG), please visit - 
facebook organization page: https://www.facebook.com/TrisomyAdvocacyGroup
facebook support group page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/T18Mommies/

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Bella Santorum's Impact on the Trisomy 18 Community

I was quoted in an article on Politico on 4/14/12!   Juana Summers (the reporter) did an awesome job of posting a NON-POLITICAL piece by interviewing several different people and perspectives and showing how Rick Santorum's daughter, Bella Santorum, has helped make Trisomy 18 a more widely-known disorder.  Of course, Santorum-haters used the article to attack him, Bella, and trisomy parents, like myself.

Bella Santorum's Fight - By Juana Summers on Politico
Here's my part in the article:
“A couple years ago, nobody knew what trisomy 18 was,” Susan Budd, the mother of a 2-year-old who has the chromosomal abnormality, told POLITICO. “Now, when I’m out and about and when somebody will ask me about my daughter, they’ll see trisomy 18 and they’ll say, ‘Oh, isn’t that what Rick Santorum’s daughter has?’ So Bella Santorum has done a lot for trisomy awareness in a very positive way because I think that more and more people are seeing that children are living with it.”
Budd – a mother of five including 2-year old Rebekah, who also has the disorder – said during her pregnancy several years ago, “if you typed trisomy 18 into Google, everything that you’d pick up would be negative,” but that now – partially thanks to the Santorum family – there’s a greater awareness and more resources for families like hers, impacted by the rare condition.
Without resources to turn to, she started a Facebook group that now boasts nearly 1,000 members and also keeps a blog about her daughter’s life.
“During the pregnancy and early on, my local contacts and my online community - that got me through things,” Budd said. “Now, I’m at the point where Rebekah is fairly healthy and stable, and so I spend a lot of time helping other families that are just beginning this journey, or who have never known that there is a big community to help them.”
Budd’s problem is less common now, after Santorum’s decision to step off the campaign trail – twice – to be with his ailing daughter made national headlines.
Read more: http://www.politico.com/news/stories/0412/75120.html#ixzz1tOfQlv5n 


The article made it to another blog where I was re-quoted!
How Bella Santorum Had a Positive Impact on Families With Sick Children by Laura Donovan

I wish I could get our story out there even more and help share HOPE for trisomy kids!

Friday, April 13, 2012

Medical Futility Policies

Thankfully, most people do not ever have to deal with Medical Futility policies. Unfortunately, parents of Trisomy children need to educate themselves about it.


The Free Dictionary defines it as:
medical futility,
1 a judgment that further medical treatment of a patient would have no useful result.
2 a medical treatment whose success is possible although reasoning and experience suggest that it is highly improbable.
Mosby's Medical Dictionary, 8th edition. © 2009, Elsevier.

futility [fu-til´Ä­-te]
the quality of not leading to a desired result.
medical futility the judged futility of medical care, used as a reason to limit care. Two reasons for making this judgment are (1) to conserve resources and (2) to protect clinician integrity. The types are physiologic futility and normative futility.
normative futility a judgment of medical futility made for a treatment that is seen to have a physiologic effect but is believed to have no benefit.
physiologic futility a judgment of medical futility based on the observation of no physiologic effect of the treatment.
Miller-Keane Encyclopedia and Dictionary of Medicine, Nursing, and Allied Health, Seventh Edition. © 2003 by Saunders, an imprint of Elsevier, Inc. All rights reserved.

medical futility
Futile resuscitation, futility Biomedical ethics A subjective term that encompasses a range of probabilities that a Pt will benefit from efforts designed to improve his life and survive to discharge from a health care facility Medtalk The lack of efficacy of a particular maneuver in ↓ M&M. See Advance directive,DNR, Futility. See DNR orders. Cf Euthanasia.
McGraw-Hill Concise Dictionary of Modern Medicine. © 2002 by The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc.



Yes, MANY hospitals have policies regarding medical futility! These covert policies guide withholding treatment to infants (and adults) in certain circumstances, DESPITE PARENTS' DESIRES. It includes things such as a physician-written DNR that trumps the parents' choices, to covert injections of medications in doses high enough to cause death, to withholding of nutrition and fluids, to mysterious deaths for no apparent reason.

If you don't believe this happens, there are many stories of trisomy children mysteriously dying after routine procedures or surgeries where the prognosis was good. Mary Kellett, from Prenatal Partners for Life, unfortunately has first hand experience of medical futility policies. Mary's son, Peter, passed away in 2011, and the hospital led them to think he died of a infection. They were encouraged by the funeral home to have an autopsy, it confirmed that the hospital was responsible for his death and they knew what they were doing. They allowed sweet Peter to fill and drown in his own blood while pumping him with fluids, all while lying to the mother who kept asking them if he was internally bleeding. This is the worst nightmare of any parent whose child is in the hospital... that the doctors and hospital you entrust your child to allow things like this to deliberately happen.

Do you know about the Medical Futility Bill? Until this is federally mandated, we (the disability community) should fight for this at our state's level. It requires hospitals to disclose their medical futility policies to parents of minor children and to the Department of Health. It is currently being lobbied at the federal level by Michele Bachmann. Idaho has recently signed into law the Medical Consent and Natural Death Act. It is being discussed in MN. The amendment was adopted, but must now go to conference since it was not in the original house bill that is has been added to. It was recently debated in a MN House informational hearing. Here is the audio of the brave testimonies of several families. The first person to testify is Mary Kellett.

Here is a good resource to follow what is going on across the country with respect to medical futility issues.
Sweet Peter Kellett, trisomy 18, victim of a medical futility policy.

Testimony in Support of SF2238 - by Mary Kellett

Thank you, Mr. Chair for the opportunity to speak before the committee. My name is Mary Kellett and I am a resident of Maple Grove.
I am a mother of 11 children the youngest of which, Peter, had a condition known as Trisomy 18. I want to speak in support of Senate file 2238 and tell you my story because I believe it is important for you to know as you consider the need for this legislation.

Peter’s story- when I was 19 weeks pregnant, an ultrasound revealed markers for a condition called trisomy 18. We were offered an amnio, which we refused because we didn’t want to risk hurting our baby. We were told we would have more choices if we knew for sure. We said we would never abort our baby, but would love him no matter what he had.  We named him Peter. We were told there were no survivors beyond 2 weeks with trisomy 18 and that most people aborted babies like this. At 33 weeks I had an emergency c-section. Peter weighed 3lbs and 2oz. Peter was given excellent care until day 2 of his life when a fish test revealed he did have trisomy 18. At that time it was recommended to us that we stop all treatment, wrap him up in a blanket and let him die. We were told he would lead a life of terrible pain and suffering and would never know us or respond to us. My daughter went on the Internet and found many children living with this, some in their twenties and thirties. When I asked the doctor why he had lied to me, he said, “ Well how these children do largely depends on the choices their parents make for them.” I responded,” How can parents make decisions when they don’t receive accurate information.” He then said, “Well, we have to think about resources and you know Peter will never be able to contribute to society and will be a horribly burden to your family.” I started to cry, because I knew resources meant money and it hurt so badly to have a doctor tell me my son wasn’t worthy of the needed treatment to help him live.
Another woman doctor who I had never met until after Peter was born came into my hospital room and said she wanted to talk to me as a mother, not as a doctor. She said that if I wanted to be a good mother to my other children, I had to let Peter go, because he would be a burden to our whole family and it would not be fair to them. I could do nothing but cry. We were told our son’s heart defect was fatal. Something told me the doctor was not telling the truth, so we made our own appointment with a pediatric cardiologist who shook his head and said Peter’s heart was stable and functional, but he did need a minor surgery called a PDA ligation. The doctor at the hospital told us that Peter was not a candidate for this surgery that was described to us as open-heart surgery. We were asked why we would want to put our son through that. It was not open heart surgery but a minor procedure to close a blood vessel. This is just a small example of the incomplete, inaccurate information and out right lies we received. We were pressured over and over to sign a DNR. We were even told we could not receive home care visits from a nurse unless we signed a DNR. I called the director of the home care-nursing program and asked her if this was true. She was flabbergasted and told us this was not their policy, nor had it ever been their policy. When I confronted the doctor about that she said, “Well they must have changed their policy, to which I responded no, it has never been their policy. We were very concerned about our son’s welfare. It was very hard leaving him at the hospital, knowing they felt as they did. We called the head doctor of the NICU at the U of M for a second opinion and shared our concerns. When the doctor at the hospital Peter was staying at found out, she was very angry. The next day she said we had 2 choices, we could take Peter home or we could transfer him to Childrens, she already called and they had a bed ready for him. She said we had to leave HER hospital.

We decided to take Peter home. He only weighed 3lbs 11oz. He thrived on all the love and attention and grew and did many things we were told he would never do, like drink from a bottle and eat by mouth. He knew us and loved us, and we loved him. He was the happiest, sweetest little boy, who was everyone’s favorite. He was never, every a burden, only a joy and a blessing. He made us all better and taught us so much about love and compassion for others. He was the best of us. Peter died at Children’s hospital in Mpls at the age of 6 1/2 after having his appendix removed. I have to wonder if he was a victim of their hospital’s futility of care policy. I have talked to many other families who also have children with disabilities that have similar concerns and stories to share. By having this policy, doctors and hospitals are making a value judgment about children that only parents have the right to make.

In conclusion, I want to say that this bill simply gives parents the right to know if a hospital has a futility policy and what it is.  It provides a level of consumer protection in health care choice. Parents shouldn’t carry the burden of fear and stress over the policies of the hospital, especially during a medical crisis. They have a right to know before they bring their child, disabled or not, to that hospital. And they have a right both legally and naturally, to be the decision makers of their child’s health care. Please pass this bill. Thank you.

“There is a place in the world for children with special needs. We all are ‘differently-abled,’ with flaws and gifts. These children are teachers of our souls, and society desperately needs the lessons and blessings they bring.” ~Mary Kellett

Saturday, March 3, 2012

March is Trisomy Awareness Month!

Rebekah started out Trisomy Awareness Month with two accomplishments! First, she is one of the featured Toby's Kids on the Passy-Muir company website. Rebekah wears a Passy-Muir Speaking Valve which allows her to talk despite having a trach. She also learned something new and very special. When told, "Give me a kiss!", she will now turn her head toward you and give you a nice, slobbery kiss! Every now and then, she makes really funny fish lips trying, but it is mostly a closed lip peck right now. She will even kiss her stuffed animals!! Her nurse, Becky, got teary-eyed when I showed her.


Rebekah turning her head to give mommy a kiss!
Rebekah and I have have kicked off Trisomy Awareness month by trying to do as much local awareness as possible. My boys' school had Disability Awareness Week this week for the 3rd graders. I took Rebekah into the school and was able to share her story and some information about children with disabilities. Her brother, Jeremiah, was so proud when I brought her around to his classroom! He loved showing off her g-tube and trach, and wanted to talk about the SOFT conference we went to last summer in Chicago and how we will be going to St. Louis this summer for it. (SOFT is Support Organization For Trisomy)

Then this afternoon, we had the privilege of having 6 MUSC (Medical University of South Carolina) 3rd year med students/interns come to our house and meet Rebekah and her friend, Maddy, who has a 2q microdeletion. What a WONDERFUL opportunity to work with future doctors so that they can have more compassion and empathy for disabled patients! This is part of a program to give these future doctors some exposure to the disabled community, since most of their exposure will be with sick patients in a 'hostile' environment. I think these poor students got a little more education than they expected. Thanks to the Budd Zoo, they learned how loud and chaotic a house of 5 kids can be!
Maddy (2q microdeletion) and her Mommy, Alisa
Some of the future doctors!
Two more future doctors (holding Rebekah) in front of Jeremiah and Michelle from our local Family Connections group.  A big thanks to Michelle for getting us signed up for this program! We hope to see many more doctors!

This weekend, I will be hard at work on a trisomy awareness video for the nonprofits I am involved in: Hope for Trisomy 18 and 13 and Trisomy Advocacy Group. I am so excited because our video will have examples of trisomy kids from 2 to 22! Woo hoo!  Make sure you subscribe to our you tube channel so you don't miss it! 

Monday, I am attending a SC Department of Disability and Special Needs (DDSN) Stakeholder Meeting. Even though this isn't directly trisomy-related, it is directly related to services we receive from the state and I go representing Rebekah, and all children like her.

Next Wednesday, Rebekah and I are off to FL to celebrate a Trisomy Awareness gathering of friends, several of whom will be at Disney all week thanks to Make a Wish Foundation. We are praying we will get some media coverage for our event!  I am so excited to spend just a few days hanging out with Rebekah's trisomy friends!

Later this month, I will be working hard on a presentation application to the TASH Annual Conference. TASH is an international leader in disability advocacy fighting for human rights and inclusion for people with significant disabilities and support needs - those more vulnerable to segregation, abuse, neglect, and institutionalization.  If the project gets chosen, Rebekah and I will get a trip to CA in November!

Needless to say, I will be taking a mental break in April, and probably sleeping for a week!

To learn about all kinds of helpful resources for special needs children, and to see some of the beautiful children that span across all trisomies, please visit our facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/TrisomyAdvocacyGroup